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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
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randomfatechidna

uh hi so!

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i wrote this webpage that walks u thru looking after yourself when you know a thought is making you spiral. deployed it publicly bc i wanted it on mobile and i thought other people might like it too

check it oot

persecutorlifeandsupport

You're a hero op

genderdoe-sly

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I don’t know if op is aware of this, but this is very similar to a method I know about from therapy. If you can’t pick out the flawed parts of the thought, you can say it in a ridiculous voice to make it seem less valid. It really works! (For me at least)

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Separating yourself from the thought can also help. It’s sometimes easier to look critically at something when you’re not the one who said it. This also reminds of thinking traps, which have helped me tremendously with my social anxiety. 

(tip: be careful with number 2, ‘Emotional reasoning’. While just because you feel something doesn’t mean it’s true, simultaneously, your emotions are never wrong. They may come from thoughts not based in reality, but your emotions make sense from the thought that it stemmed from. I.e. “I forgot to submit my assignment on time. I am so dumb.”--> shame, anger. You are not dumb because you didn’t submit the assignment on time. AND it makes sense that you feel ashamed if you are telling yourself that you’re dumb.)

randomfatechidna

hello op here! yeah, this website came about because i wanted to put all of my skills from two years of therapy into one place, so i could access them easily when spiraling.

my therapist and i spent a session printing out pictures of ben shapiro and drawing speech bubbles where he would say the bad thoughts i have about myself. VERY funny in terms of situations to be in but very effective in terms of therapy.

i’m glad you recognise the skills in this and that it’s effective for you!

headspace-hotel

all the best mental health hacks are a bit cursed

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marcosbudt

More links, PLEASE reblog or repost and add more resources:

OHCHR - Iran: Women and girls treated as second class citizens, reforms urgently needed, says UN expert

Iran: Where the regime opposes women’s rights

Read: The Wind In My Hair - My Fight For Freedom in Modern Iran by Masih Alinejad

Watch: Kiosk - Sweet Destiny (the movie)

I don’t think I’ve ever asked my followers to reblog anything but this time it would mean. The actual world. To the people of Iran. If you could spread awareness of the Iranian people’s fight for freedom right now. I’m not on Twitter or Instagram (although this post is optimized for instagram so PLEASE FEEL FREE TO REPOST IT ON IG) but from what I could see there is not as much noise about this as it should be. Nor is it easy to find posts with resources and basic information. And on tumblr I’ve only seen some posts from dedicated feminist blogs or actual Iranians. And from what I’ve gathered they NEED US to share what’s going on. They are shutting down internet in Iran so it’s up to us to not let the world look past this, not this time. PLEASE join the fight for women’s rights!!!

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@silvery-luna @milkyway-ashes​ @goldieisontheinternet @aftabkaran

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bogleech: “bogleech: “blondebrainpower: “Frilled shark seen near Japan. ” This is the only video of a frilled shark on the whole internet but it’s a deep sea animal in the process of dying which is why it swims so weird and its gills are puffed out...
blondebrainpower

Frilled shark seen near Japan.

bogleech

This is the only video of a frilled shark on the whole internet but it’s a deep sea animal in the process of dying which is why it swims so weird and its gills are puffed out and its whole front end seems paralyzed. Somewhere there are vibrant happy frilled sharks swimming gracefully like regular sharks but almost no one has ever seen what that’s like.

bogleech

RE: why this happens: most of the ocean is just one huge open space with no physical barriers, so a deep sea animal relies only on its senses of light, temperature and pressure to tell it where it should stay. As it wears down with age or sickness those senses start to break down so everywhere probably begins to feel the same. It randomly wanders farther out of its habitat and sometimes that wandering takes it up and up and miraculously one of us humans sees it before any predators catch it, which is incredible because that’s hundreds of meters of distance it might have avoided porpoises, seals, barracuda, morays, squid, tuna, marlins, large jellyfish, even scavengers like lobsters and hagfish will often start eating something on the brink but not quite dead yet.

It’s sad, but it’s likely this shark lived a very long life, and it doesn’t know it, but it survived a very long trip in a very vulnerable state just to visit us for a moment. With its senses so far gone it may not have felt too bad. It might have felt like any ordinary day floating around its home until it fell asleep one last time, never knowing how it amazed and enlightened members of an entirely alien species in the process!

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cannibalcoalition

“Oh I love roses! I try growing them myself, but they never get very far.”

“Would you like to know the secret to healthy rose bushes,” I asked, knowing that she would not like the answer. 

“Do tell!”

Grin. “Blood.”

The customer paused, waiting for me to say that I was kidding. But I wasn’t so it never came. She became nervous. 

And before I could explain that blood meal is a common soil fixer and fertilizer, she put her hands up, spun around and said-

“Bye.”

You want to know the secrets to a beautiful garden? You better be prepared for some weird shit. 

traegorn

Well someone felt like being the ominous witch in the small, mysterious shop today.

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…also, tomatoes like blood too.

cannibalcoalition

My interest in plants extends beyond ‘oh look a pretty flower’ and straight into ‘plants are fucking metal.’ 

Evidently, you’re supposed to plant garlic in the same places as your roses because the garlic will repel a rose-specific aphid.

So what I’m saying is that between the romantic symbolism of the rose, the bloodmeal in the soil, and the fresh garlic all over the place-

You could really set yourself up for an encounter with some VERY pissed vampires. 

sans--seraph

Roses really love banana skins, too. Just… stick one in there before you plant a rose bush or spronkle around one that’s already in  the ground. They’ll adore you. 

cannibalcoalition

Mmm… blood banana. 

fattyatomicmutant

I made tiny ass Home Depot Petunias blossom like magic that they’re nearly overtaking the trellises.

How did I accomplish this?

Once a week I bury a small amount of leftover meat in the soil.

cannibalcoalition

My morning glories loved the crap out of the charred chicken bones I gave them. They’re already an enthusiastic plant, but the blooms I had this year were extraordinary. 

wind-voice

That’s cool as heck. Is this all plants, or just specific plants? Inquiring witches want to know!

cannibalcoalition

See, here we’re getting into soil chemistry, which is an entire doctorate of study and I only know a little bit above the average person. 

But the primary reason why bloodmeal is used for rose cultivation is because roses grow best in nitrogen-rich soil. So plants that need a lot of nitrogen in their soil would benefit from blood meal. Others, who do not benefit from high nitrogen, would not fair well. So I would not use it on the entire garden. 

Bones/bone meal are used to add phosphorus to the soil, which is why its used as a fertilizer. Generally, most plants benefit from it, but that’s not guaranteed. Crushed eggshells provide the same treatment, with the added bonus of deterring ants. 

Coffee grounds will make the soil more acidic. 

Ashes of hardwood trees will fix soil if it’s been overwatered. I think it serves as another nitrogen fixer, but don’t quote me on that. 

I’d have to take a look in one of my books before I say anything else, but there’s tons of materials that double both as soil fixers and offerings. 

ageekyreader

Any particular books on the subject that you’d recommend?

cannibalcoalition

The one I’m reading called “Sleeping with a Sunflower” goes into some of the folksy gardening tips, but ymmv on some of them. Chaptered by moons, basically outlines the entire plant/cultivation/harvesting year. Also offers folkore, foraging tips, and recipes. Warning for appropriative language and some pseudoscience.

The rest is essentially just stuff that other enthusiasts have told me. Though Im being informed that coffee does not change the ph of the soil, but IS an excellent composting material and thats why plants love it.

When i get finished with this book, I’ll do some cross referencing and make a cliff notes version

symphonyofmars

Hi! I have a Masters in Soil Science and also garden so here are some fun NPK facts:

Each plant needs a certain amount of Nitrogen (N), Phosphorus (P), and Potassium (K), in order to grow. It’s N for lush, green vegetation, (but be careful– too much and you won’t get any fruit, potatoes, corn, and onions need A LOT), K for roots, flowers, and fruit (add more when it’s cooler out as it’s less available then), P for thick stems in fruiting plants and higher yields from root vegetables.

If you’re buying a manufactured fertilizer (which I don’t like) then you can just read the bag for what it’s use is for (lawn or flower beds as opposed to vegetables). If you’re buying otganic (which I like), you would buy Bloodmeal or Fishmeal for N, Bonemeal or Mushroom Compost for P (crushed eggshells are more like a slow release version because they have to break down first, and deter slugs as well as ants!), and Seaweed or Wood Ashes for K.

(@cannibalcoalition, it might have been that the wood ash helped your plants grow longer roots which helped them pull up more water.)

It’s easy enough to google how much of each your plants need, you’ll find it written as a ratio such as “10-10-10” which means the mix has 10% N, 10% P, and 10% K. Soil tests are also fairly easy to purchase (you want the kind that you have to dry soils and use little test tubes to add chemicals because they’re the kinds professionals use; don’t worry, the chemicals are safe to use) and can gice you a good idea of, say, the soil around your carrots need as opposed to the soil around your roses.

Anyway, soil science is cool (and really complicated when you get into what organism frees up what nutrient for plants to use, hoo boy) so I hope I’ve added something. :)

cannibalcoalition

Oh my god! I was hoping that someone with an actual degree in this would weigh in on the science! Thank you! 

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super-sootica

With so many elections coming up worldwide it's probably a good time to remind everyone that tumblr once got infested with agents trying to convince everyone not to vote, or not to vote left because the candidates weren't morally pure enough.

Also a reminder that they were better at tumblr than most of us, comrade interloper was great at memeing. Like, the talent!

Anyway don't fall for it. There is no morally pure option.

msfbgraves

I was reading a book from 1945, where the writer describes being a 16-year old girl in 1930 Germany, contemplating what to vote if she were allowed but finding no morally pure option.

The Nazis, in 1933, only needed less than 44% of the vote to end democracy in Germany and start working towards a war that led to the most horrific genocide in memory.

It is normal, then, for young people everywhere, to look for a morally pure option. It's not new, it's simply the unwillingness to contribute towards evil and that is good and noble and beautiful.

But it can be weaponised.

If you do not vote for the greatest possible good...

That can be taken advantage of by the greatest possible evil. Because it gives them space.

Because those 44% was not, and I'm certain, 44% of the entire population elligible for voting.

It was 44% of the people willing to vote at all.

Some, I'm certain, didn't vote for moral reasons. Would that they had.

Hitler might have never become head of the German government.

Vote for the greatest good on offer, to help drown out the greatest evil.

bundibird

"There is no morally pure option" --- i respectfully but emphatically disagree.

The morally pure option is to do whatever you can to prevent the morally abominable from achieving power.

If you prevent the raging bigot from being elected by voting instead for the candidate who's policies aren't perfect, but who is not actively trying to destroy entire sections of society, well, that's the morally pure option.

There are no morally pure candidates, sure. Theres not a single morally pure human being in the whole entire world. But the morally pure option is to vote for the least bad candidate, so that you prevent the election of literal evil.

super-sootica

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I mean there have probably been a lot of other good ones but I don't catch them all.

polisciacademia

If you consider yourself radical, please take a moment to think about why you see yourself that way. Is it because you do everything possible to change the world and real, working class people’s material conditions for the better? Or is it because you like the aesthetic of radicalism? If you are not willing to vote for a morally “impure” candidate, you are not working to improve material conditions, you are radical on an aesthetic level only. Also no, I am not talking about the presidency or other high levels of government that do not impact your personal life. I am talking about city council, county commission, state representatives, and anything else that will impact your community.

katy-l-wood

I'll just add that, on my recent post about Student Loan Forgiveness, I got a a good dozen empty bot blogs adding very inflammatory replies and reblogs, and another dozen or so "there's just no hope" ones. They're out there right now and they're working hard.

(All these people were reported, blocked, and had their replies deleted. Nothing I can do about the reblogs though, unfortunately.)

drbtinglecannon

It's always important to remember that if voting were worthless, Republicans wouldn't work so damn hard to make it so fucking difficult.

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weepycat

when i was 15, i felt like… really deeply DEEPLY uncomfortable with the fact that there were cameras everywhere at my highschool. the sensation of not being able to walk to class without being monitored somehow really fucked with me for some reason.

this only worsened after seeing this segment on the school news that featured various stupid stuff caught on the hallway cameras, like people falling down or readjusting their underwear when they thought the hallways were empty. 

but they werent. there was someone watching, and they forgot to police their behavior and ended up getting embarrassed for it. everyone laughed at this segment. i remember the classroom being filled with snickers as someone fell flat on their face. i wasn’t a “superwoke” kid or anything, but i didnt think this was funny. i thought it was scary. what if that was me? what if i got caught fixing a wedgie on camera without even knowing it? 

i remember these cameras being used for everything – spotting dress code violations, catching students skipping class, etc. you can argue that they shouldnt have broken the rules, sure, but that doesnt excuse the concept of Being Constantly Watched. 

and what about the times when they weren’t doing something wrong? like when they were walking back from the bathroom or tripping over their own feet? did that warrant embarrassment and shame from their watchful spectators? does existing in a school hallway warrant surveillance? 

this brings me to the concept of anti-shooter architecture. there is a rising interest in school layouts that prepare for the possibility of a shooter roaming the halls. these improvements include bulletproof glass, concrete cover, and…. something scary. 

many of these highschool floor plans include some type of circular or central “watch tower” feature, and the designers actively boast about it being a panopticon. a panopticon. the same thing they use in prisons to enforce the idea that the prisoners are always being watched, though they can never really know when. 

what kind of effect will “anti-shooter architecture” have on kid’s minds? the constant threat of violence is already taking its toll on teenagers who have undergone active shooter drills, and this concept of air-tight security (clear backpacks, metal detectors, camera surveillance, constantly locked doors, etc) is not really an environment you would want to raise a child in, so why are we sticking kids in schools like that for 7-8 hours a day?

which leads into the next thing. many people’s solution to this is more guns, which equates to police presence in schools. ive already seen videos coming out of school cops beating black kids and ordering muslim girls to take off their hijabs. but beyond the racism and xenophobia, it’s another (now living) reminder of the unsafe environment these kids find themselves in. another reminder that theyre being watched and their behavior is being judged according to the law, or whatever the cop or teachers find inappropriate. that standing up for themselves or arguing can be taken as hostile and warrant physical intervention. 

police presence on campus grounds is DIRECTLY used to suppress student activism. you know that.i know that. we know that. you remember that photo of the cop spraying a line of peaceful protesters? you remember that cop that tackled a student for holding a sign? you remember the fucking car fuls of kids that were arrested for protesting? 

police are our enemy, but they can be found in plenty of highschools and colleges now. even in elementary schools, where young children are being taught to obey and trust cops. the conditioning is being started young, and if you don’t conform to it, you become a watched enemy on your own campus. 

what kind of affect will this militarization and surveillance in schools and campuses have on future generations? it’s impossible to deny that environment has an effect on development, so what kind of behavior are we encouraging when we educate children & young adults in schools that not only prepare them for violence, but instill them with the idea that they are constantly being watched, monitored, and judged? that they could be victims of gun violence at any time, or that protests are an excuse for police brutality?